The "Love Junkie" podcast is dedicated to giving hope and practical tips to those who struggle with love addiction the persistent pursuit and fantasy of unavailable romantic partnerssex addiction, codependency, and trauma. Every week, we will explore either a problem area and give advice on how to work through it, focus on a tool to build positivity and abundance in your life, or feature the story of someone who's been trapped in these addictive patterns and overcome. The purpose is to help you get your best life now, today, by building a relationship with the most important person in your life, YOU!
Come with me as I take you on this journey into the darkest corners of my heart. Codependency is a misunderstood term that is severely overused. For those who are actually afflicted by this condition, it is not something to be taken lightly.
Whether your obsession about someone is a sign of love or addiction? Initial attraction stirs up neurotransmitters and hormones that create the excitement of infatuation and a strong desire to be close and sexual with the person. These chemicals and our emotional and psychological make-up can cause us to obfuscate reality and idealize the object of our attraction.
Using post-induction therapy coupled with other individualized treatment methods, Core Recovery clinicians facilitate the process of healing wounds from past trauma and learning how to have functional adult relationships. Love addicts are searching for something outside of themselves — a person, relationship, or experience — to provide them with the emotional and life stability they lack. In other words, love addicts use their intensely stimulating romantic experiences to temporarily fix themselves and feel emotionally stable. Happily, in a similar fashion to sex addicts — and, in fact, in many of the same treatment and self-help venues — love addicts can find the help they need.
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Recently, I was having a conversation with a dear friend who is also a recovered codependent. There is definitely a stigma attached to it and this will only make it harder for people to come to grips with what is not a simple character flaw, but an actual full blown mental health problem. Validation of their existence.
Skip navigation! In any kind of relationship — be it with a friend, romantic partner, family member, or even a coworker — it's normal and healthy to have some level of dependence on another person. But if you find yourself making a lot of sacrifices for someone else's happiness and not getting as much as you want in return, that might be a sign that you're in a dysfunctional codependent relationship.
In my 27 years working with addicts and codependents, I rarely have come across a completely healthy partner of an addict. Addiction psychotherapists all have experienced how both the addict and his or her partner participate, either actively or passively, in their dysfunctional relationship. This is not a new idea, as for over 40 years, the pioneers of Family Systems and Adult Child of Alcoholics ACOA theories have espoused the various relational systems at play in an addictive relationship or family. Even if the co-addict partner denies culpability in the addiction, a detailed social history will ferret out his or her long history with narcissists or addicts.
Co-dependency is a learned behavior that can be passed down from one generation to another. The disorder was first identified about ten years ago as the result of years of studying interpersonal relationships in families of alcoholics. Co-dependent behavior is learned by watching and imitating other family members who display this type of behavior.
So many women I interviewed when writing my book reported saying yes to sex just to get the sex over with and have the person go away. Others reported saying yes to sex to have the person like them. Many reported drinking too much, knowing they had been taken advantage sexually and not remembering the specifics. The stories go on and on and, except for being raped, they all have one thing in common: the inability to say no when you mean no.